I feel a little weird discussing this here for some reason, but it's been bugging me, so I guess I'll ask the HT masses for an opinion.
Okay, I do this really weird thing. When I'm using a unisex bathroom, such as at a cafe or at a friend's house, I wipe the rim of the bowl when I'm finished peeing. I'll wad up a bunch of toilet paper and do a quick (not psychotic) wipe, and if there are droplets on the floor in front of the bowl, I'll wipe those up, too, even though those droplets are never mine, thank you very much.
I think this is a good thing. I don't think a woman should have to deal with that nastiness when there are so many other nastinesses brought about by men. It's sort of a do-unto-others thing, even though my real motivation is that I cannot stand the thought of some woman using the restroom after me and thinking whatever's there is MINE. I shudder at the thought of being considered a pig by the woman who sees me exiting the restroom, even when I don't know that there's actually a woman waiting to use the restroom.
What I am trying to say is that I do this pretty-good thing only because I'm worried that if I don't, people will think ill of me. If I could be totally sure that nobody would ever think the mess in there is mine, I don't think I'd worry about it, unless it were someone I knew, because I haaaaaaate public restrooms and would rather just get OUT of there as quickly as possible.
A courtesy like wiping the bowl is a small courtesy of very little importance, but a selfish, vain heart is quite vile.
So respond to the poll. Is this admirable, is it reprehensible, is it somewhere in the middle, or do the actions and motivations essentially cancel each other out?
Okay, I do this really weird thing. When I'm using a unisex bathroom, such as at a cafe or at a friend's house, I wipe the rim of the bowl when I'm finished peeing. I'll wad up a bunch of toilet paper and do a quick (not psychotic) wipe, and if there are droplets on the floor in front of the bowl, I'll wipe those up, too, even though those droplets are never mine, thank you very much.
I think this is a good thing. I don't think a woman should have to deal with that nastiness when there are so many other nastinesses brought about by men. It's sort of a do-unto-others thing, even though my real motivation is that I cannot stand the thought of some woman using the restroom after me and thinking whatever's there is MINE. I shudder at the thought of being considered a pig by the woman who sees me exiting the restroom, even when I don't know that there's actually a woman waiting to use the restroom.
What I am trying to say is that I do this pretty-good thing only because I'm worried that if I don't, people will think ill of me. If I could be totally sure that nobody would ever think the mess in there is mine, I don't think I'd worry about it, unless it were someone I knew, because I haaaaaaate public restrooms and would rather just get OUT of there as quickly as possible.
A courtesy like wiping the bowl is a small courtesy of very little importance, but a selfish, vain heart is quite vile.
So respond to the poll. Is this admirable, is it reprehensible, is it somewhere in the middle, or do the actions and motivations essentially cancel each other out?
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